High Maintenance Men; A high maintenance man is an annoying man. Full stop. You can do better. Macron of France and Trudeau of Canada, the type of men you run not walk from, if you value your health
by Paul Alexander
friend Rachel Maldonado put this nice stack out, I find interesting & this is her area of expertise & she interviewed McCullough & myself some whiles back at start of COVID; smart; support her work
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‘I remember in 2019 when my cousin lamented that “It’s hard to find a rich man to date.”
Her ex made 700k, very few men are on that income level.
These were my exact words to her. “What if a man was respectful to your parents, kind to your children, good in bed.” I was trying to point out that there are intangibles that can matter more than Status Looks Money
I’ve met several men who were either incredibly good looking or who had money and if they had both, they never lacked for attention from women.
I’m telling you, that the high maintenance man is a pain in the a$$.
Therapist Jordan Peterson talks about the risk of Psychopathy in dating when the most desirable men have endless choice.
I’m not saying that if you land a cutie with a good job, that you shouldn’t be happy to have a Top Shelf man.
I’m adding the caveat that rich men and good looking men, are not always all that and a bag of chips. Popular men who never get told “no” can be ego maniacs, unchecked their entire life because too many women fear “missing out” on this man with Status Looks Money
If you meet a womanizer, you’re better off running not walking for the nearest exit.
These men will cheat on you without breaking a sweat, the rationale is that if they can, they will. They have plenty of opportunities.
Men with zero dick discipline are not as desirable as you might think.
You may feel pleased for a moment that this good looking guy is paying attention to you, but how will you feel when you realize you’re number 300 on the list of women he’s slept with. How special does that make you feel? You do realize you’re probably getting ghosted, there’re other women on his roster he wants to sleep with.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be physically attracted to your partner or look for attributes of work ethic and monetary success. I’m saying that you better vet that good looking man with money, if you don’t and he’s a pain, you’ll regret that you ignored the red flags because he had Status Looks Money
Sometimes you’re better off with an average looking guy who makes less money, but he truly adores you.
Sometimes it’s better to be the dream girl, know that your man is faithful to you.
Sometimes the grass is not greener, when you go after the same man that all the other women want too.
If you find a Top Shelf man who also happens to have Status Looks Money that’s fine and all, but vet for intangibles and monitor for red flags.
A high maintenance man is an annoying man. Full stop. You can do better.
Photo: Macron of France and Trudeau of Canada, the type of men you run not walk from, if you value your health.’